Navigating Family Conflict Around the Holidays: Tips for a Peaceful Season
The holidays are meant to be a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness.
However, for many families, they can also be a time of tension and conflict. Whether its long standing grievances, differing expectations, or the stress of planning and hosting; gatherings can sometimes be a struggle. The good news is, there are steps you can take to manage and even reduce the tension. Here’s how to navigate family conflicts during the holiday season, while still showing grace and compassion.
Set Realistic Expectations
One of the main sources of conflict around the holidays is the pressure to create a picture-perfect celebration. Everyone may have different ideas of what the “perfect” gathering should look like, which can lead to disappointment and frustration. It is important to set realistic expectations for yourself and others. Instead of trying to please everyone, focus on what is most important to you–whether it’s spending quality time together, sharing a meal, or simply relaxing. Be honest with your family about what you can realistically contribute and encourage open communication about everyone's priorities.
Communicate Early and Often
It is important to begin communications regarding the holidays early, as to allow enough time to set expectations and resolve any potential conflict. If there are long-standing issues, and you feel they are resolvable, have the conversation! If you feel you need a third party, consider asking the other person(s) if they would be willing to have a session with a counselor.
Set Healthy Boundaries
If your family dynamic is stressful, it is important to set healthy boundaries from the start. It is ok to say no to certain invitations if they feel too overwhelming. Boundaries protect your mental and emotional well-being.
Manage Stress and Emotions
The holiday season often comes with a great deal of stress, which can exacerbate already existing family conflicts. Emotional triggers from the past can be more pronounced during this time. Self care is vital during this time–whether that be exercise, meditation, journaling, therapy, or simply taking a quiet moment for yourself.
Create New Traditions
Sometimes, old family traditions can bring up tough emotions or memories. Creating new traditions that everyone can enjoy, can symbolize a fresh start and breathe new life into the holiday season. This can help shift the focus from past tensions, and puts emphasis on building positive, present day experiences.
The holidays can be a stressful and painful time for many, but these are a few steps you can take to hopefully add a little peace and joy into this season.
Here at Atlanta Wellness Collective, we want to help. For support, contact us or request an appointment online.
This blog was written by Jenna Elliott.
Disclaimer: This blog is not intended to substitute professional therapeutic advice. Talk with your healthcare provider about your health concerns and before starting or stopping therapies. No content on this site, regardless of date, should ever be used as a substitute for direct professional advice from your doctor or other qualified clinician.
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